 I was one of those girls who didn't know what they wanted in life & never felt inspired to find out. All I knew for sure is that language has always been part of my life. As a little girl I could read a book a day. It wasn't until being homeschooled & having freedom to learn about things I'm interested in middle through high that I understood reading, writing, & helping writers publish their story could be your life. That's what led me to writing a book about my experience with NVLD to help parents, children, teens, young adults, & adults know that they're not alone and I'm out there wanting to use my voice to build a supportive community. During that process I started learning about the many moving parts of publishing. The first thing that really caught my eye is proofreading because you can play with the words and build a story. The thought of helping other writers tell their stories & go through the publishing process lights a 🔥 in my ♥️ & soul. That's my why behind starting Flourishing Writers Publishing. Don't get me wrong, it's easier said than done to find your passion. I think the only true way to find your passion is trying new things. You can try anything from aviation to zoology. When you find what you love, stick with it. Always be curious about new things & never stop learning. Reflection Questions: Have you always known what you wanted to be? Do you have no idea what you want to be? What lights you up? How are you nurturing your passion? Feel free to comment questions, stories, advice, tips/tricks, anything related to where you are on your journey 🙂
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 A new month reminds me of a fresh start where you are! However, I'm always too in my head to take advantage of it. I've spent too long not knowing what's next for NVLD Warrior & Flourishing Writers Publishing & making the process harder than it needs to be, as per usual. One day when I was walking with Yoda ( My adorable partner in crime), he helped me come up with a plan of attack! First, I had to reflect & refine my why. Upon reflection I realized that thinking about creating & sharing resources in a supportive community for parents, children, teens, young adults, & adults with NVLD lights me up & feels like my dream life! Flourishing Writers Publishing is perfect for my love of reading & writing & helping self-publishing authors, bloggers, podcasters, and video creators share their works of personal development, self-help, NVLD, and spirituality with a focus on books, blogs, podcast scripts, podcast show notes, newsletters, and video scripts. The purpose is to share your message in a clear, effective, authentic, and relatable way through freelance copyediting and proofreading services. I work closely with you to preserve your voice while using clarity, flow, and consistency across your work. You get the feel of a partnership committed to communicating your passion, knowledge, and most of all ❤️with your audience! Reflection Questions: Have you ever felt like you need a fresh start where you are? If yes, what would that look like? How do you feel about the new month? Have you made plans? Feel free to comment questions, stories, advice, tips/tricks, anything related to where you are on your journey 🙂
 Have you had so many thoughts in your head that you don't know what to do with? Been so overwhelmed it's a struggle to write them down to then break down into smaller steps? 🙋🏼♀️ Lately I've been struggling to find a focus. Between thinking about my business, working on the book I'm writing, building a community, & self-care, I feel like there's no room for decision-making, planning, dreaming, prioritizing, goal-setting, or time & space to breathe. Trying to figure out next steps the NVLD portion of NVLD Warrior has been a big challenge for me. I want to build an online NVLD community for parents, children, teens, young adults, & adults that's part social media & part business. I feel strongly about creating one platform with separate spaces for others in a similar life phase with similar struggles to each other and sharing resources I've created to help others going through the same thing as me. For Flourishing Writers Publishing side of NVLD Warrior: Since publishing Thriving with NVLD: Turning Struggles into Strengths, I've been working on a fiction book about sharing my experience with NVLD to show parents, children, teens, young adults, & adults they're not alone and can find their circle of people. Above all else I want happiness & freedom! One thing I want to get better at to reach this goal is taking care of myself. On the community front, I've been taking time to look at platforms that include all the elements I want. As for Flourishing Writers Publishing, I'm trying to put myself out there on social media & find clients. When it comes to happiness I've been going to the gym and doing Yoga, Step, & Kickboxing! They make me feel like I'm making progress. Since exercise has been my biggest enemy my whole life, what's been helping me push myself is getting a watch to track my exercise & getting workout clothes to feel comfortable moving in. Reflection Questions: What thoughts are rolling around your mind? Are you able to sort through them? or Does it feel like too much going on mentally & emotionally? What helps you to empty your mind? Feel free to comment questions, stories, advice, tips/tricks, anything related to where you are on your journey 🙂
 I would like to start off by saying I am talking to you as well as myself in this post especially. I write this blog to talk about my experiences and sort out my thoughts and feelings in hopes of helping someone with NVLD who can relate to what I'm going through. Do you ever get so overwhelmed and stressed you can't make decisions? ✋🏻 My latest struggle is figuring out whether I want to go back to my job or not in the fall. I started looking for something full-time in the summer. I got close with a couple places I applied for, but didn't get the job. Getting rejected twice brought up negative feelings, but also positive feelings. I believe that the reason I didn't get those jobs is because the universe knows I'm where I'm meant to be. The rejection gave me the redirection of looking into babysitting since I miss the kids. I was having trouble figuring out if I like my job because I was so focused on all the challenges that came up for me from the get-go that I didn't want to listen to my mom when she said this is a good job for me. Taking time to think about what she said, I realized I had good memories and things I enjoyed about where I work! I need to slow down, give myself grace to enjoy the journey, and not take everything so personally. I need to learn how to let things roll off my back and not let little things interfere with something I might enjoy. My ultimate goal in life is to build a heart-centered community with the intention of supporting parents, children, teens, young adults, and adults through their NVLD journey and be THE girl to help self-publishers share their personal development, self-help, NVLD, and spirituality blogs, books, podcast scripts, podcast show notes, and newsletters with freelance copyediting and proofreading services . That's why being a para and building a publishing company is perfect for me! Takeaways: (insert belief) is always working behind the scenes to put you where you're meant to be Find positivity when you feel lost There are times that you find something new to believe in Your belief knows better about what you want than you do, which is when you need to have faith in what you believe Reflection Questions: What do you call the source of what you believe in? What helps you find positivity when you're lost? Have you had an experience when what you believe in knew better about what you wanted then you did? Feel free to comment questions, stories, advice, anything related to where you are on your journey 🙂
 FYI: When writing this post I'm talking to myself as much as I'm talking to you. I'm NOT an expert on NVLD. I'm an individual who lives with NVLD and shares her thoughts, feelings, and experience. This post is meant for suggestions, not the end-all-be-all. Something that I try or works for me may not work for you. You're the only one that can determine what works for you. Transitioning into young adulthood can be challenging, confusing, and overwhelming. I know I'm I'm in the boat of wondering if I'll be able to be on my own with the challenges, confusion, and overwhelming feelings that come with being independent. When I turned 18, I thought I had to figure everything out at once because everyone "gets' it. The truth is, nobody has it figured out and there's no timeline to follow. Instead I'm taking baby steps by making my own appointments, using Uber, learning to solve problems when they arise, having a job, and working on a business 1. Changes that occur:
- Executive Function
- Gross Motor Skills - Fine Motor Skills - Visual-Spatial Deficit Tips:
- Friendship is difficult; you have to keep putting yourself out there - Romantic relationships will test your overthinking and communication Tips:
REMEMBER You're brave when going down a path that's different from your peers 4. Wins, Strengths, and What Works NVLD comes with unique strengths. Anything language related like writing, reading (except comprehension), etc. is your friend. If you're interested in something, you get fixated; if something doesn't interest you, the information will psychologically fall out of your head. Auditory memory is strong. You will have traits like detail-oriented thinking, desire to help others, empathy, understanding, patience, and kindness. Skills will include ability to generate creative verbal ideas. Reminders: Celebrate progress in a way that feels right to you Asking for help shows strength not weakness Building a support system can be the key to success 5. Conclusion: It's okay to go at your own pace. There's no timeline and you're never behind. It's ok to be in the learning phase and not knowing everything. Success doesn't have one meaning. It looks different for everyone. I think knowing your why leads to success. Adulthood isn't a straight line. There are going to be up, downs, twists, and turns. Even when you have moments where you think you're not doing enough or being enough, take a second to take a step back, breathe, and start again. You can restart as many times as you need to. If this resonates with you, I'm in the same boat. Know that this is a safe space for you to share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences surrounding NVLD. Feel free to comment questions, stories, advice, anything related to where you are on your journey 🙂 Link to related posts: https://www.juliesneverland.com/nvld-blog/what-is-nvld https://www.juliesneverland.com/nvld-blog/make-the-most-of-your-20s
 Lately I've been going trough a lot emotionally including:
8.Arts/Crafts 9. Following inspiring people:
Which ideas resonate with you? What inspires you? Feel free to comment questions, stories, advice, tips/tricks, anything related to where you are on your journey 😃
 Are you in your 20s? Does this time in your life bring up thought-provoking questions? For me personally, being a 20-something makes me want to truly begin my life, take steps to becoming who I'm meant to be, and creating the life I want! I want to use this time of my life to explore who I am, take small steps to figure out my professional path, find and build relationships, prioritize myself, see the world, gain real-life experience, find harmony between doing what needs to be done and having fun, make mistakes and learn from them, learn what's in and out of my control, and fail and learn what I can do better. This is my time to enjoy the present and not let the past or future deter me from what I want! I'm going to give myself permission to explore who I am and do what makes me happy without the guilt of not doing what I'm supposed to be doing.
Do you have a professional dream that you feel scared to go after? Do you overwhelm yourself with all the steps? Give yourself grace to make a plan, map out the steps, and make the dream happen! There's not a timeline to follow. Take steps that feel right to you and enjoy the process. Be gentle with yourself while working through the stages to make your dream come true! Relationships are one of the most important aspects of life. Making new relationships and maintaining the ones you have come with challenges, but worth it for the right people! Ways to find your people:
Reflection Questions: What suggestions above resonate with you? How do you want to make the most of your 20s? What do you want to prioritize in this stage of your life? Feel free to comment questions, stories, advice, tips/tricks, anything related to where you are on your journey 😃
 Because NVLD comes with challenges like visual-spatial deficit, non-verbal communication, executive function, and coordination, discovering your dream career can feel impossible. The real, honest truth is you can do anything you set your mind and heart to! This is something I struggle with and think others do too. One thing I'm discovering is you can forge your own path. Instead of a traditional career, you can make your own business or freelance. Here are 7 tips to help you thrive in a career you love: 1. Know your superpowers Take time to explore what you're naturally good at Common strengths include:
2. Identify challenges so you can work with them instead of against them Common challenges:
3. Explore what feels aligning Find roles where your strengths can shine and challenges are supported. Ideas:
6. Look for mentorship & community 7. Redefine success on your own terms As you read this post, remember that you're not broken; you're different Reflection Questions: Which tips resonates with you? What tips would you add? Feel free to comment questions, stories, advice, tips/tricks, anything related to where you are on your journey 😃
 Are you thinking about, in the process, or already moved out? Being on your own is a mix of excitement, fear, anxiety, overwhelm, and freedom. When you have NVLD it can feel out of reach, but you have to remember that it's possible! Struggles with executive function, spatial awareness, coordination, and social understanding can bring up new challenges to navigate, but with the help of your support system, you can work on real-life skills like cooking, cleaning, budgeting, transportation, and scheduling with a mix of personal growth skills like mindset and self-care to make the transition easier and more empowering. Break down overwhelming tasks into smaller, more manageable pieces. Executive Function
Nonverbal Cues:
- Church groups (if applicable) - Sports - Girl/Boy Scouts - Schools clubs - Join online groups Create your own FB group
Tips:
Even if you're independent, you're not a failure if you ask for help. Not behind if you have to do things differently. Remember that this is you foraging your own path and doing what's right for you! Reflection Questions: What tips do you have for being on your own? What are you working on? Where are you when it comes to independence? Feel free to comment questions, stories, advice, tips/tricks, anything related to where you are on your journey 😃
 Disappointment is inevitable. When you have NVLD, the emotions can feel like a bigger volcanic explosion. Whether it's family, friends, romantic partner, job, career, personal, anything, it can be a mixture of emotions - frustration, confusion, sadness, and self-doubt; wondering if you're good enough. Processing change, emotional regulation, and seeing the bigger picture are struggles of NVLD. Disappointment can feel like it'll last forever rather than a change in direction. Setbacks don't define you. I experienced disappointment recently and working through feelings of frustration, sadness, and wondering if I'm good enough. I keep hearing move forward and I won't be where I am forever. Logically I know it's true, but emotionally I just want to feel my feelings and not feel like I'm on a timeline. 1. Acknowledge Feelings Write down how you're feeling Talk to someone you trust Try using a Feelings Chart 2. Break free from All-or-Nothing thinking 3. Create a Step-by-Step Plan Forward 4. Lean on your Support System 5. Rejection is Redirection Working through disappointment is tough. With NVLD there's an added layer. Every challenge is a chance to learn from your mistakes, grow through what you go through, and prove to yourself how strong you are. Keep going - your story isn't over yet. Reflection Questions: What is your most recent disappointment? How do you work through disappointment? Feel free to comment questions, stories, advice, tips/tricks, anything related to where you are on your journey 😃
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